How to Stop Letting Your Ex Get Under Your Skin
He does the thing. A pointed text, a backhanded comment at pickup, a story he tells the mutual friends that you know is not quite true. And instantly you are...
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How to Protect Your Kids From Divorce Conflict
When researchers and clinicians talk about what harms children in a divorce, the answer is rarely the divorce itself. It is the conflict around it. Children...
How to Separate Your Finances From Your Ex
For years your money and his money were the same money. Now they need to become two separate lives. Untangling shared finances can feel like pulling apart...
How to Make a Post-Divorce Financial Snapshot
Before you can rebuild anything, you need a clear picture of where you stand right now. A financial snapshot is exactly that: a single, honest photograph of...
Simple Self-Care That Actually Helps After Divorce
Self-care after divorce has a marketing problem. The word conjures bubble baths, spa days, and expensive candles, and when you are in the wreckage of a...
Dealing With Anger After Divorce Without Letting It Run You
Nobody warns you about the anger. They prepare you for sadness, maybe for loneliness, but not for the hot, sudden fury that can hit you in a grocery store...
How to Cope in the First Week After a Divorce
The first week is its own country. Time behaves strangely there. An hour can crawl and a whole afternoon can vanish. You may cry without warning, or feel...
Life After Divorce at 40: A Realistic First-Year Roadmap
Divorce at 40 carries a particular weight. You are old enough to have built a whole shared life, careers, a home, maybe children, and young enough to know...
Dating From Wholeness, Not From a Hole
There is a single idea that changes everything about dating after divorce, and it fits in one line. Date from wholeness, not from a hole. A hole is the empty...